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Verbal Abuse in the Workplace – Strike One

Today I took my lunch around 230pm.Not that I wasnt hungry. There was just so much to do at the office that it kept piling up on my desk. We were a little undermanned and it took a toll on more than just the lunchbreak. I was about to take my break when my colleague asked me to help her finish up a request form by one of our clients. I wrote up the order like I always do and handed it to my boss.I was summoned to the CELLHELL like a criminal.

My boss barked at me like I stole his bone. The Junkyard dog caused so much commotion, a friend of mine decided to record the entire incident on her phone. Im listening to it right now and I just cant understand why the fucker flipped out over something so petty. Im not biased, his reaction was so uncalled for. It wasnt like the company lost a lot of money for a mistake I made. Being yelled at would be an understatement. My boss used condescending remarks just because I explained to him why the paperwork he asked me to work on did not indicate the time it needed to be finished.  Ive been doing the same thing for some of the previous works we’ve done for clients and I never got this kind of horrid reaction. Im sure he had a bad day but fuck, it was not fair to take it out on me. If his clients knew what kind of asshole he is, I wonder if they would still buy merchandise from this douchebag.

I tried to resolve the issue by providing him with a revised document. But guess what, that was like putting more fuel to the “fire”. for some reason he felt the need that I had to be insulted more. I cant believe how I was able to contain my rage this afternoon. People can only take so much. After so many years in this line of work I have NEVER EVER EXPERIENCED this kind of verbal abuse.

Yes he may have succeeded in building his “empire” but one day I am sure someone will make him realize that its wrong how he treats his employees. One day he may mess with the wrong person and still pull the same stunt and the shitbag he may not be as lucky as he is with us. I am not the only person he treats like this by the way. It amazes me how most of the people I work with have been there for several years. They all say, they try to ignore it. They say, life is hard right now, you just got to swallow your pride. Simple words but very true.

I honestly dont know how long I can take more of this man’s bullshit though but I am stretching my patience and understanding.  If it was the old me, I could have just told the jerk to go to hell and id tell him to shove that paperwork up his ass then quit right there. I wish it was that simple.. we all know it is not

And i feel like im starting to put a price tag on my dignity and principle ..

This article I read discusses pertinent points why Abuse is so prevalent in the workplace.

Summarily, I can think of 3 reasons why people tolerate staying in a job that sucks. Why people put up with bosses who are dicks.

1) Money

2) Money

3) Money

Obviously!

Economy is just so shitty right now that one opts to be abused than be a bum. No offense meant for unemployed people out there.

While I can still help it, I just dont feel right about mooching off of the government just yet. But if things dont pan out in my favor, i might not mind being called one. at least i might still have my dignity and sanity intact.

Until then, im waiting for strike two!

 

 

 

 

 

Prepping for our next move

We spent the weekend cleaning up the next place we will be moving to. picked up some cleaning supplies from rite aid. on our way back home, we had a delicious dinner at Udon West. Yesterday too we spoiled ourselves by having lunch at Veselka.Sort of rewarding ourselves for putting so much energy on sprucing up our next abode! There is still a bunch of stuff to do though. The bathroom needs to be scrubbed. We also have to get new shower curtains.

Im not complaining really. its kinda exciting thinking of how we will be fixing up the room. also im wondering how the cats will adjust to their new home. my cats have moved so much for the last 4 years. in singapore they have moved from tampines to pasir ris. then singapore to the philippines. Philippines to the USA. now after 7 months they have to move to a different apartment in Manhattan.

Apartment hunting is tough in this state. Everything is very expensive.If you do find something affordable, you have to wonder what the catch is. It is not enough to say that the apartment is nice and affordable. You have to consider the neighborhood where the apartment is at. NYC may be a tourist friendly place but it also happen to have a bunch of gun wielding fools. im not exaggerating coz i see it in the news everyday, and based from accounts of people i personally know.  it pays to be paranoid especially if it would mean keeping you and your loved ones safe.

this is just a temporary living arrangement though until we find something semi permanent.  Im still thinking of living around Queens or Brooklyn where the rent is more reasonable. For now i need time to look up better deals and also save enough to live off just in case the landlord ask for additional deposit and fees.

tomorrow we are off to get more supplies!

another fatal shooting

A couple of days ago, my coworker came to work with shocking news that her friend’s son was a victim of a drive by shooting “accident” in their neighborhood. It was on the news that evening. The poor boy was only 4 years old. Another senseless death e like what happened in Colorado last Friday.

But shooting incidents in this country seem common. My husband says that gun ban is also less likely to happen because it would be a violation of the right to bear arms.

I dont know whether the politicians will use the string of crimes related to gun activity to come up with a “bill” or “act”. because that seems to be the trend here. they come up with more and more laws ironically, it doesnt really ensure it would prevent people from committing more crimes. Just the same, i think they should think of something that could curb the gun related violence. for instance try to monitor stores that sell guns and do background checks for people buying guns. stores selling guns should raise the red flag when someone suddenly make huge purchases of ammunition or firearms. its discouraging though since illegal purchase are also very rampant over here. im unsure also if that idea of monitoring guns being sold could be feasible though.then again, the government spends tax money on frivolous things like the bridge to nowhere for instance.

Batman and the real evil out there

I just got home from watching the Dark Knight Rises. My husband went ahead and purchased 2 tickets yesterday as a surprise although I wasnt really too keen on seeing it. He knew I was dying to watch it since last month but the turn of events yesterday made me change my mind.

Not that I suddenly lost interest because of reviews I read. The truth is, after watching it today I couldn’t stop but thank my husband profusely for getting us those tickets. It was a great film! The whole 2 and a half hour was worth it, and i had to hold my bladder too for that long because I just didn’t want to miss a scene. After the movie was over, i didn’t even wait for the credits to roll, I saw Christopher Nolan’s name and I bolted out of the door running to the restroom. I’m glad I did because by the time I was finished using the loo, the line to the women’s restroom was almost as long as it was when we were getting ready to get in the theater.

I had fun watching Batman although I still couldn’t keep my mind off of what happened in Colorado yesterday. You would think that the tragic incident  would make people change their mind and put off watching the movie for a couple of weeks. It didnt seem that way though. Surprisingly people still lined up at the moviehouse like tickets were free. The line was very long at Regal Cinema by Union Square. We showed up there an hour in advance but the line was already by the wall across the entrance. That was aside from the long line streaming from the main entrance of the movie house. You can hear people cursing as they reluctantly fell in line behind us.

When it was time for us to go inside the theater, me and my hubby were fortunate to secure 2 seats by the door on the last row. The truth is we were also eyeing for a spot where it was closest to the door..you know just in case.. although i was dying to watch Batman, Im not ready to die yet over it. Im a real paranoid and another stunt where someone goes Batshit crazy in a Batman screening just cant sit well with me.

i dont know why things like that happen in this country. totally senseless killing, by a man who has a degree! No evil in the movie can outdo the evil that is James Holmes. Currently probably the most hated man in America.

My heart goes out to the poor victims by this atrocious act.

As for Batman, how I wish there was a real life version especially in a crisis such as what happened yesterday..

4 years and a lifetime to look forward to

Today was a good day. Just had an awesome time hanging out with my sweetheart at Olive Garden. We did some window shopping and I also picked up a few items at forever21.  After stopping for a tea and coffee at Starbucks we hung out a bit at Barnes and Noble.

Earlier also we went apartment hunting. With some luck, we may finally move in to our new apartment by July 1st (fingers crossed).

This is the first time we are spending our wedding anniversary together in the USA.  Not that the previous ones werent as special. It’s just that we have been through a lot in just 4 years and now we are finally living the life we have been planning from the start.  The difficult times in our relationship has made our bond stronger thats for sure.We did not have much  when we we we were starting out and that taught us a lot. We learned how to compromise, to be practical, humble and mostly respectful and empathic of those who are barely getting by.  It was during our time of need we also discovered that there are still people out there who are good.

Life is unpredictable and we dont know where we may end up next year when we celebrate our 5th year anniversary. One thing I do look forward to though is celebrating it again..

Im lucky to have met quite a gem of a man. He is intelligent, profound, generous, compassionate, funny, passionate about reading and healthy living, loves our cats, accepts my quirkiness, is supportive of my dreams, thoughtful and as a bonus happens to be goodlooking and sexxxxxyyy!!

Assholes in the workplace and why you shouldnt quit

why are there people who only feel better about themselves when they put others down? why does silence seem to totally scare em that they can’t STFU and think even for a few minutes first before running off at the mouth? it seems ironic that they opt to mask their insecurities in life by being loud and obnoxious.

two people i work with are just that. one is an old fart pushing 60 and the other one could pass as her daughter, not because they look alike but they have so many common traits they can pass off as such. Both are ill natured and find entertainment in inciting conflict among the people they work with.

Pumba, the younger one of these two, is crabby all the time. youd be surprised to know she is only 20ish.The first time i met her i thought she was almost 40.not that i think 40 is a bad age. but if youre 20 something, isnt it that a period in your life where you feel like you are at the top of your game?i remember when i used to be that age and all i wanted to do was get drunk, get high and of course get paid hahaha (typo error? lolz). but this gal, damn she is this 20 something chick that has all that potential. she isnt even bad looking . unfortunately all this aggravation (which could be self inflicted in a way) she brings upon herself is not doing her any favors. she is “beyond her years”, but not in a good way.

threatening to quit from your job every single day is commonplace nowadays. but if youve been doing it for almost 4 years isnt that a sign that maybe you just prefer to be stuck in the same shitty job or you just arent good enough to land another one elsewhere? so in the meantime why try to just look at the great things you can get from the company you are currently working for despite the fact it does SUCK. it could be a lousy job but that doesnt mean you have to have a lousy attitude all the time too right?

whats up with the perpetual scowl everyday. i mean it, every day.

im sure my situation is not unique though. every workplace has their very own share of assholes.

i  must say however that i have worked for several companies and ive never been in such a hostile work environment. there is just no harmony that people here talk shit about everyone and endure working alongside the other because times are hard. the company may seem to be doing well right now but im pretty sure it will be headed towards destruction if the boss doesnt pay attention to what is going on.

no accountability..backbiting..bullying..gossiping…smelly bathroom among a few.

so what is the silver lining ?

i wont be all poetic about it, yes it does suck but the pay happen to be really good. and just like that i prefer to stick around. i love working and getting paid. i may not like the job but there is nothing i hate more than being a bum.

its true i used to believe id want to stay in a job that made me happy. a place that make me look forward to going to everyday..a job that makes me fulfill my passion.

but nah fuck that. the truth is, passion is great but one has to also be realistic especially in hard times like now. Because hunger pangs are real and its not a good feeling. when you experience it, you also learn another very important word. COMPROMISE.

nobody told you that you have to give up your dreams, but it wont instantly happen right? so while working towards it, have a day job. something that would put food on the table, doesnt entail for you to sell your body, and is within the acceptable work hours and of course isnt illegal. You can save money while you stay in a shitty job then move on once you find something that is more tolerable than the last. until you land the job you really like.

You can still have fun along the way, and play along even if people  like pumba (sad i had to use the term because i love that warthog from lion king) and skidmarks (you dont want to know why i refer to her as such) try to get you down. it should be the other way around. make their lives more unbearable because you dont care. try indifference because there is nothing more annoying than trying to piss off someone who is not bothered by it.

And most importantly remember at the end of every 2 weeks, YOU get to be paid and YOU get to spend that paycheck. retail therapy for your “sadness”

 

 

 

 

 

 

Missing breakfast moments with the Family

ginisang ligo sardines, steamed rice and coffeee for brunch. i miss pinoy breakfast and time with family at our dining table in antipolo. the occasional bickering, sharing of ideas, current gossip and the amazing-thing-that-happened-to

-me-this-week contribution. haay how i sometimes took for granted those seemingly insignifcant moments..cherish family time while it lasts..

10 years before and after

Times Square
Times Square

I went to see an old friend today at Times square. This friend of mine is a physician/anesthesiologist in the Philippines. He was my Biochemistry professor and one of the revered figures in the Medical School I went to.  He is a cool guy and me and my friends admired him as a teacher and friend.

It was y amusing to see him here in NYC after a decade. I can’t believe it has been that long. I have’nt spoken to him in 10 years since he left the country and I’ve always wondered what happened to him. It was just today I found out why he left for the USA. He seem to be doing well here though and has no regrets of turning his back on a promising and respectable career in the Philippines, for what was then (10 years ago) an uncertain future here in the US. He followed his heart and he seem really happy.

He then asked me what happened after he left. He asked how my friends are doing, what they pursued after Medical school or if they finished medical school at all. It was an interesting conversation because after I told him that I veered from the original plan, I realized that I am also very happy with what i did with my life.

Just like my friend, I also turned my back on what could have been a “remarkable” profession. Not just that, I lost whatever inheritance I could get from my mother because I opted to be “free”. I knew I could regret that move but I told myself that I would rather blame myself for my decision than blame someone else for my unhappiness because I let them make the decisions for me.

I wont say I’m living on top of the world now but I am content and having fun. I am where I am supposed to be. I am the way I am, because of the experience, knowledge I acquired by growing up and standing up for myself and pursuing what makes me happy.

In the end, it’s all about taking that risk.

Life is too short to waste one day to be unhappy… or to be in a situation where I long to be somewhere else, or be with someone else.

10 years after today, I want to say again ”  I would rather blame myself for my decision than blame someone else for my unhappiness because I let them make the decisions for me.” in short, my happiness and success is UP TO ME.